The male perspective
It’s 8 pm the night before our much-needed family vacation. Sunshine beckons—a British blessing after a dreary winter. My husband finally wraps up work at 8:30 pm, later than promised but thrilled about his upcoming break. ‘All done!’ he declares, bursting through the door. ‘Just need to toss some stuff in a suitcase, and we’re good to go!’ he announces, before disappearing upstairs for his evening throne time. There’s no research needed to confirm the peculiar male fascination with these serene, porcelain moments, especially when holiday prep is needed. He seems to find comfort there.
Minutes later, his packing is complete. A few shorts, tees, sliders, maybe a cap to fend off the UV rays, and he’s ready, his holiday mood in full swing, hinting at the possibility of a bedtime cuddle.
The female perspective
Meanwhile, I’m the mastermind behind the scenes, ensuring the kids don’t depart wearing just the clothes on their backs. The cats, along with their up-to-date vaccination cards, have been delivered to the cattery. Given the children’s habit of depositing leftover food in every household bin, I’ve emptied every bin in the house. And I doubt anyone but me has considered the perishables in the fridge. Medical kit? Packed. Sunscreen? Check. Bug repellent? Check. International adaptors? Check. Sick bag for the child with a tendency for car sickness? Check. And who doesn’t appreciate coming home to a clean house? So, I squeezed in a cursory hoover and a light dusting.
I’ve arranged for the neighbour to water the plants, and a different neighbour to feed the fish because the first neighbour is still traumatised by the fact that she killed two last year. True story. My mind is a juggle of to-dos and I’m aware that our good friends are going through a tough time and may need a call before we leave.
As I finally slide into bed, exhausted, he who switched off hours ago seductively purrs, ‘Where have you been? I’ve been waiting for you,’ surprised by the fact that he finds himself face to face with an ice queen who has settled under the covers as far away as possible without toppling off the side of the bed.
Prioritising self
Does this scenario resonate with you?
Have you experienced the overwhelming feelings of frustration and exhaustion from managing endless responsibilities while preparing for a family holiday?
You are certainly not alone.
As we embark on our Summer holidays, take a moment to consider your own needs.
What do you want to achieve during your break?
How would you like to feel when you return?
As multitasking individuals who often put others’ needs first, it’s essential to start your holiday with a clear understanding of what you personally want to get out of it.
What steps can you take to ensure your needs are met and that you come back feeling rejuvenated and fulfilled?
Prioritising yourself is not selfish but an essential part of operating at your best for yourself and those you love.
How can you make self-care a priority during your holiday and beyond?
Taking time for yourself during a family vacation can seem challenging, but it’s crucial.
Reflect on what truly brings you joy and relaxation. Plan moments, however small, that are just for you. Whether it’s a quiet morning coffee, a solo walk on the beach, or a good book by the pool, these small acts of self-care can make a significant difference.
Embrace the idea that a well-rested, happy you is the best gift you can give your family. Make your holiday the start of a new tradition: one where your needs are just as important as everyone else’s.
